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During the wedding reception, several toasts will be offered to the newlyweds.  Short speeches will also be given.  The one person who is always guaranteed to present a speech is the Best Man.  The person being asked to give the best man 
speech should consider the task to be a honor to be taken seriously.  Aside from the wedding ceremony and the seldom exchange of marriage vows, the speech given by the best man will serve as the centerpiece of the wedding day!  

The job of the best man through his speech (as well as other actions) is to help create fond memories for the newlyweds and guests.  The best man speech will be remembered either for being great and inspiring or for being bad, maybe even downright awful!  Obviously, the Best Man wants to do everything possible to make sure that he does not screw things up by saying or doing anything which will bring embarrassment to himself, the newlyweds, or anyone else!    

The best man speech isn't simply something that appears out of nowhere.  There is a process that must be carefully followed from writing out the speech through the actual deliverance of the speech.  The purpose of this article is to lay out the proper tips and advice with preparing the speech in order to ensure a favorable response from those in attendance.


Reach out to family and friends for information about the newlyweds that you may not know. 

Think about how you want to approach the speech.  Do you want to be mostly sentimental or humorous?  Do you want to go into great historical detail about your friendship with the groom?  Would you rather just focus on a couple of 
stories and anecdotes?

Don't try to memorize your entire speech.  Either write out the speech or keep notes on cue cards.

The speech must consist of opening remarks, main body, and closing remarks.  

Work on the body of the speech first.  Once the main portion is established, it will become easier to prepare the opening and closing remarks.

In the beginning, it is best to focus primarily on the content.  Spelling and grammar issues can be worked on later.

If a thought comes to you, write it down immediately so that you won't forget.

Find a peaceful and quiet place to prepare your speech.

Give yourself enough time to prepare the speech so that you can revise as necessary.

Make several drafts of your speech.  Constantly edit your material - revising, adding, and subtracting details. 

Famous quotes, one-liners, and jokes should be carefully selected and properly blended into the speech.

Rehearse your speech in front of the mirror or in front of someone.  Ask for honest input and advice.


Make sure that you are properly rehearsed, well rested, and not drunk!

Don't speak forever!  It is best to limit your speech to between 5 and 7 minutes. 

It is understandable to be a little nervous as public speaking may not come naturally to you.  However, simply be yourself and speak from the heart and the speech will go smoothly.

Smile and exude confidence.  Make eye contact with the guest before you begin your speech. 

Don't overdo or complicate things.   Do not get too fancy with your words.  Keep your vocabulary simple so that everyone understands what you are saying. 

Start by congratulating the newlyweds.  Thank the groom for selecting you as the best man.  Also thank the bridesmaids, groomsmen, ushers, and others who contributed to the wedding.

Address the bride and express how happy you are that she is married to the groom.

Mention how long you have known the groom and share a handful of incidences you two shared as friends.  Make sure that your stories and anecdotes are good-natured and appropriate. 

Expand on your points regarding the groom.  Give examples supporting what you are saying about the groom. 

Glance at you notes and don't speak too fast.  Allow for the audience to take in what you are saying.  Allow time for the guests to respond to either serious or humorous points in your speech.

Be genuine about what you are saying about the groom, as well as the bride and anyone else.  The guests will tune you out if they feel that you are faking things.

Avoid talking about the groom's past relationships.  This may cause serious discomfort and uneasiness among the newlyweds, family, and guests.

Make sure that the speech flows seamlessly from start to end.

Talk about relatable topics such as love, relationships, and marriage.  Sharing great stories about the newlyweds will remind other married guests about their own histories.

Conclude by offering a toast to the newly married couple.  Wish the newlyweds a life filled with love, happiness, and bliss!